This article will assume that you have your GROOMING in order. If you don’t know what I mean, there are plenty of articles on grooming out there to help you out. But here’s grooming in a nutshell just for fun (make sure you have this stuff in order):
If you’re at a total loss, just wear school-branded clothes. Rep your school man! Everybody wears that stuff. In the college years it's totally fashionable. And there’s plenty of it available at the university bookstore, and all the shops that surround campus.
7. Shoes - clean and new looking
Do you cold approach in college?
I’ve been asked this question a lot recently. The answer is definitely, 100%, YES.
However, the college approach has ONE DISTINCT DIFFERENCE from the traditional cold approach. In college, we never try to number-close on the first approach.
Let’s clarify this. What are the basic steps of a traditional cold approach?
The college approach is the same with one exception. Step 4 doesn’t apply. You never attempt to close the first time you meet her. Thus, you’re intentions are never actually stated.
You can't get rejected because you haven’t asked for anything. What's there to reject?
The purpose of the college approach is just to meet someone. Just to make a connection. That connection will build going forward. Now if you’re saying: “wait, I don’t want just a connection, I’m interested in this girl.” Patience my friend. We’ll see how this all comes together in a moment.
Note that the college approach is not restricted only to college. It applies anytime:
Update To Dispel Confusion:
I want to be very clear on the above points because there's been some confusion. The college approach is for a place where you're going to see a woman over and over. It sucks to get rejected and then have to sit next to her in class day after day. It sucks to get rejected and then see her at they gym everyday. So if you're not going to see her over and over, then you can revert to the traditional cold approach and try to number close.
Let me be very specific with respect to college because this is where the confusion has been. If you're on an enormous campus and you see a girl that you believe you'll never see again, revert to the traditional cold approach. However, if you see a girl in your class or in your particular school (like: the school of engineering), then most likely you're going to see her over and over. In these cases use the college approach and add her to your network.
Building a big social network is the best way to get the most girls in college. This is because of preselection (which will be explained in a moment). So to dispel the confusion once and for all. Yes, you can (and should) number close in certain cases. However, the underlying point of the college approach is to build the largest social network possible, because strong social networks are how you meet the most women and have the most choices in college.
In the college approach your goal is to: MAKE A CONNECTION WITH AS MANY WOMEN AS POSSIBLE. Why is this important? Two reasons:
For this reason, you should approach lots of girls on campus with the college approach. Even ones you would only be interested in as friends. Because you want to be seen with girls. Any girls. Plain and simple. This goes for social media too. Find every picture you can of yourself with girls, and get those pictures posted. If necessary, go to girls you already know, get selfies with them, and get those posted. This is preselection. You have been "preselected" as fun and safe by other girls.
Think about preselection in a non-pick-up context for a moment. When you need a dentist or a mechanic or whatever, which do you choose? Is it the one other people are recommending? The one with 150 five-star reviews on Yelp? Or is it the one nobody is ever heard of? Obviously you pick the first one. THE IN-DEMAND ONE. THE SAFE ONE. The one other people have chosen (sound familiar??). That's preselection. We all do it, all the time.
So let’s do a college approach example (remember grooming is in order at this point). By the way, it’s totally cool to memorize and practice some lines at the beginning. You need to start somewhere. People who say not to practice lines are talking about more advanced approaches. They're talking about "getting into flow," "free flowing," or "being in the zone." This is what you should ultimately strive for in your game. My Honey Love course is designed to get you to this point.
However at the beginning, if you're new to game, it's perfectly fine to do some drills before running off and playing the championship game.
IMPORTANT: Everything you see in the example below is done with a smile and the confident attitude of: I’m not hitting on anybody. I’m just out on campus, having fun, just chit-chatting.
THE COLLEGE APPROACH: You see a girl. She’s reading something. She’s got a book in her hand. She doesn’t see you. You walk up near her.
When you give her responses like this with teasing playfulness, she will most likely give you a smile in return. She knows you’re playing around.
Her actual response could be anything, but the underlying message will fall into one of two buckets: She will either agree, or disagree with the stereotype you just laid out.
Regardless, you’re response is pretty much the same, continuing to reference the stereotype.
Now, without really giving her time to react (just a one beat pause), move right into (playfully): “Just kidding (small laugh). I’m just messing with you. Hey, how come I’ve never seen you around here before? You a freshman?”
Again, the answer here will basically be yes or no.
So what happened in this interaction? You basically controlled the entire flow of the interaction. You teased her a little bit. Hopefully she laughed a little. You covered two topics (the stereotype and the "ain’t seen you before"), which is enough. You should be seeing that the college approach doesn’t need to be to long. Get in, run the convo, get out.
And you controlled the exit. Hopefully you touched her twice (once with the handshake, and once with the fist bump). And you never asked her for anything from a sex/relationship perspective, so there was never any opportunity or reason to reject you.
This is the first step to getting her into your network. The next time you see her, it won’t be a cold approach. Because now you know her name and a little bit about her. Also, she sees you as a non-needy, confident, mildly mysterious (which is good) dude, who just said hi, and then had other things to do, and left without making his intentions clear. Golden.
Do that enough and you’ll quickly start seeing girls again that you cold approached already. You'll know their names. Hopefully you'll know 1 or 2 pieces of information about them (like their majors or if they're freshman, etc.). This will make the next approach so much easier because you have already spoken to them. You're not a "stranger" anymore. Next time, just reopen the conversation and get to know more about them.
On the second and third times you talk to a particular girl, you can decide on a case-by-case basis how to proceed. If she seems really into you, you can try to advance things along. If you're not sure, just keep interacting with her a few more times. Get to know her. You'll be seeing her over and over so there is no rush. Every girl is different, sometimes she'll warm up to you after 1 interaction. Sometimes it may take 5 interactions. It will vary.
The key thing to remember is that every girl has a place in your network. Because girls know other girls. And once girls start seeing you with their friends (and with other girls in general) that's when the fun really starts. So even if a particular girl isn't interested in you sexually, then make her a friend in your network. Trust me, no matter how hot she is, she has single friends who are even hotter.
By the way, make sure to remember her name after the first interaction. That's the information you went in to get (which will be helpfull the next time you see her). So write it down if necessary.